Is there any scientific information on auras?

There are many sites on the science of auras. Here are some sites you can explore. LoveColors has not confirmed the validity of the information on these sites and is not responsible for the information contained therein. They are independent and separate sites and in no way related to LoveColors.com. Use your own discretion and come to your own conclusions.http://www.kirlian.org/gdvresearch/korotkov/index1.htmlhttp://www.korotkov.org/http://www.deanradin.com/http://www.bizspirit.com/science/index.htmlhttp://www.tillerfoundation.com/http://www.wwwolf.co.uk/drmunchie/biog.shtmlhttp://www.amazon.com/Capturing-Aura-Integrating-Technology-Metaphysics/dp/1577330722

Do the aura Kirlian cameras take pictures of the “life colors”?

The cameras usually measure something entirely different than people’s life colors. What the Kirlian cameras measure is your CURRENT emotional energy – not necessarily your life colors. Your emotional energy can and does change frequently, which is why the colors around you can change if you return days later to have your photo taken again. (This is what has been explained to us by people who own the cameras.)Sometimes the cameras do pick up a person’s life colors and other times they pick up different colors. The cameras usually pick up the person’s emotional state AT THAT TIME – not necessarily the life colors that are around them all the time. The life colors reveal such things as your life purpose, relationship styles, career strengths, potential health challenges and how you perceive and handle money.For anyone who doesn’t know the difference, it can be confusing to see orange in the photo, then try to learn about Oranges on LifeColorsCity.com. Typically the Orange life color descriptions will not fit that person’s personality – because he or she is NOT an Orange life color. The person just had a lot of high energy radiating off his or her hands that day – which the camera will show as orange. Again, the cameras measure the person’s emotional energy that day, not necessarily the life colors he or she came to the planet with.When you get your photo taken by an aura camera, ask the camera operator to explain their interpretation of those particular colors. It is a different system – but just as valid.

My friends see auras, but they see different colors than LifeColorsCity describes.

Many people see and sense the same aura colors that Pam does, and they interpret the meanings of those colors in the same way. However, there are also people who see and experience the auras 
differently. Some healers sense a different frequency – for example, 
they see holes or rips in the aura. Pam hasn’t seen those in the aura, 
but she knows that others do. Some people see the “emotional” qualities in the
 aura – the colors that change with the person’s feelings. Pam sees those changing colors in the outer bands of the aura.Most Kirlian cameras
 measure the emotional frequencies around a person rather than the 
”life colors” that Pam sees. We may each have a different experience of the aura, just like we
 often taste foods differently than one another, or have a different
 experience and understanding of spirituality. We each have different 
experiences and interpret life differently – for example how we see politics, nature, animals, etc. Just because we see the world 
differently, it doesn’t mean that one person is wrong and another right. 
They are just different experiences and interpretations. If you, or someone you know, sees or senses the aura differently than 
what Pam has described here – always trust your own experience of the aura. That is what is right for you! You are each just having different 
experiences. Every person’s experience is valid.

What if I am attracted to someone who has colors that are not compatible with mine?

The information we provide is meant to serve as a guide, not as an absolute. Any two people with enough love and commitment can create a long-lasting, harmonious relationship. The information was designed to help you find, understand, and then create a great relationship. There are certain Life Colors that are naturally more compatible with one another, so less work may be required to maintain that partnership. There are also some colors with such opposing personalities that serious work and attention will most likely be needed to build a life together.We encourage you to use the information in the videos and written material to help you understand and appreciate each other’s personality, priorities, and desires. This information can help you create a fulfilling relationship with any of the life colors.

What is “in power” and “out of power”?

When a person with a certain color is described as being “in power” – it means that person is living the positive qualities and behaviors of that life color. The person is living at his or her full strength and potential, and in alignment with his or her life purpose. Conversely, being “out of power” means the person is living the negative qualities and behaviors of that color. The person is not living at his or her full potential and is living out of alignment with his or her life purpose.

I feel I have different colors than LifeColorsCity gave me.

Please return to the Colors Questionnaire and look at your answers again. Make sure you answered the questions thoroughly and honestly. Do your answers reflect the real you – who you believe you truly are deep inside? Or were your answers based on who you think you should be, or who you’ve been trained or raised to be?If the descriptions somewhat describe you, but they don’t fit you completely, it may be that one aspect of you (one of your colors) is suppressing or affecting another part of you (your other color.) Consider changing your answers in the questionnaire to reflect the true you to see if the results of your colors change.Watch the videos on each color and read the descriptions again to see if you resonate with any of the colors. Ultimately trust your own inner feelings and intuition about your real life colors – even if your test results show differently. Be completely honest with yourself so you can discover your real colors. It may take some time and dating experience with other people before you realize you have different answers to the questionnaire, which then may reveal your actual colors.Do the best you can with the colors you believe you are. See who your matches are with those colors. You can always change your answers later if you learn or realize something different about yourself.

Why is it important to know my aura “life colors”?

There are many valuable clues about a person hidden in their aura. The various aura life colors reveal a person’s life purpose; goals and priorities; relationship compatibility; most fulfilling careers and occupations; attitudes toward money, family, and sex; potential health challenges, and more. Knowing your aura life colors and those of the people around you can help you better understand yourself and give you permission to be who you are, as well as understanding and allowing others to be who they really are. There are no good or bad, ‘better than’ or ‘worse than’ colors – each color simply reflects a desire for a certain experience in this lifetime. Understanding that we are all different, that we each have a unique but valuable life purpose, can help promote peace, harmony, and acceptance on our planet.

What are “life colors”?

There are numerous colored bands in a person’s aura; each color reveals a different quality or personality trait. Some people may have five different bands of colors in their aura; others may have ten or more bands. The one or two bands closest to the body are the “life colors.” These are the important bands that reveal a person’s life purpose, their personality, and more. The life colors typically do not change throughout a person’s lifetime. The outer bands in the aura change constantly, depending on what is happening in a person’s life at different times.The significance of the life colors is that they reveal what you are experiencing in this lifetime; the overall theme and purpose you are choosing. The life colors don’t “rule” you or dictate how you must be – they simply reflect the choices you are making. You have free will. You can change your aura colors any time you want. In Pamala’s experience however, most people don’t change their life colors – their overall life purpose and theme for this lifetime. They may add a new aura color and a new direction or develop a new skill and personality trait, but their inner life purpose usually remains the same. For example, the overall plan and theme you choose in this lifetime may be to help others, or to save the planet, or to express yourself through creativity as an artist, writer, or musician, etc. You may choose different ways to fulfill your goal, but the main underlying theme will still be the same.

If I cancel my membership, are my member privileges immediately cancelled?

No. Your member privileges will continue until the end of your membership term. Once your membership term ends, you will lose full member benefits.

If I buy a membership and cancel before the end of the membership term, will I be refunded for the time that is left?

No. If you cancel your membership before your term is scheduled to expire, you will not receive a refund. You will, however, continue to have membership benefits until the end of your term.

If I cancel now, will I be charged again?

No. If for any reason you decide to cancel your membership, all future automatic payments will be canceled. Please be very sure that you are ready to end your membership when you cancel because cancellation is non-refundable. Your membership privileges will continue until the end of your term.

Can I cancel my membership anytime I want?
Yes, you may cancel your membership anytime and for any reason. Simply click on your Profile, then Settings.  Next to the word General, click on “Delete Account.”

Are membership fees refundable?

All purchases are final. We do not issue refunds. If you believe you have a circumstance that warrants a refund, please contact us. Our goal is for every member of LifeColorsCity to be happy with their experience on this site.

Will my membership automatically renew?

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Writing Your Love Colors Dating Profile
Writing Your Profile Writing your profile can make an enormous difference in attracting your ideal partner. Here are some suggestions to help you create an effective, fresh, and interesting profile. We encourage you to be unique, creative, and authentic.Invest Your Time Invest thoughtful time and energy into presenting the true you. If you don’t have time to really think about who you are and what you want in a partner or write about the authentic you in your profile, how will you have time for a relationship? Words and Tone The words you use and the tone you set in your profile communicate a lot about you, so think carefully about what you say and how you express yourself. We also suggest you write your content when you’re having a good day so people can see you at your best. Writing when you are frustrated, angry, or depressed could cause you to write a profile in a tone that doesn’t represent the real you – the wonderful, amazing, and unique you. Be Creative There are plenty of ordinary profiles filled with common, cliché statements. People often write that they like to dine out, walk on the beach, play with the dog, or spend time with friends and family. Make your profile unique. Be creative. Be original – since you are an original. Be specific about you, your personality, and the inner you, so it sets you apart from cookie-cutter profiles. Descriptions Use examples of who you are rather than just writing a list of adjectives that describe you. For example, rather than saying you are “funny”- show us you are funny. If you have a sense of humor, let it show in your profile. Or reveal what makes you laugh. Humor shows that you don’t take yourself too seriously and that you can be fun company. Rather than merely writing that you are a “music lover” – describe what types of music you like and why. If you are active and athletic, maybe explain why. Do you enjoy being physical and spending time outdoors for the pure joy of it? Are you interested in health and fitness? Are you competitive, is it how you release stress, or is it how you stay clear-headed and balanced? If you are deep and contemplative, describe how you spend your time and what topics you think about. If you are sensitive, quiet, and shy – reveal what you love to do and why. If you tend to be a loner, explain how and why you would share your life with a companion. Be Honest Don’t be afraid to be real. If you want to be with someone who accepts the real you – show us the real you. If you misrepresent yourself, once someone meets you they will quickly learn you cannot be trusted and the potential for a meaningful connection may end before it begins. It’s better to learn to believe in yourself and give people a chance to like the real you. If it takes a little longer to meet that special person, it will be worth it. This way, you won’t exhaust yourself pretending to be someone you’re not. Although it’s important to be honest, you don’t need to over-emphasize something about yourself that you may think is negative. For example, when it comes to weight you can describe yourself as large, voluptuous, or curvy. Be Positive Be positive about yourself. Everyone has qualities that are valuable and traits that are likeable. Be sure to include the best version of yourself. There’s no need to spend time writing things that could push people away. Avoid negative references in your profile. If you write about your self-doubt, lack of hope, past failures, or disappointments, you will make yourself less attractive to others. Complainers and overly critical people are not enjoyable as dates or partners. If you have a list of “deal-breakers” (moral, religious, financial, family, or social), mention them in a positive tone. Share Your Colors For additional content ideas, you could refer to the color descriptions Pamala Oslie has shared in her videos and written text to help paint an accurate picture of who you are. One of the special benefits that LoveColors offers is providing a new “language.” Members can easily learn to identify, understand, and discuss the different personality qualities of a Blue, Yellow, Violet, Red, Green, and more. Sharing your colors and describing yourself using the language of the colors can be a unique way for others to understand who you are. Other Content Ideas Consider adding a favorite short poem, song, or quote that could attract your favorite life color. (Be sure to credit the author.) If you want to capture the attention of a Blue, for example, adding a quote or lyric about love and romance could be beneficial. A Violet may be inspired by a quote from a great leader or humanitarian. If you want to attract a Yellow, add something funny and entertaining to your profile. You might want to approach your profile as if you are writing to your best friend – open, honest, and friendly. Steps to Take Create your profile on paper or in a word processing program so you can easily edit and refine it before cutting and pasting it into LoveColors. Save your document for future changes and updates. Before submitting your profile, you may want to read it out loud. This is a good way to find errors, typos, and awkward sentences. Make sure you spell check. Misspelled words are a yellow flag for people reading your profile. If you care enough to use good grammar and spelling, you will set yourself apart from those who do not make the effort. It will show you care. User Name Your username says a lot about you so choose something that reflects who you are. Keep in mind that creative usernames are eye-catching and can prompt a reader to click on your full profile to learn more about you. Sometimes anonymous and simple user names such as “Mary2428” or “Mick398” are effective. It is important, though, not to use any significant or self-identifying names or numbers in your username. Be aware that if you decide to be bold – “Wildwoman352” or “DareDevil99” – you will create certain assumptions in members’ minds. Be mindful of the impressions you are making. Photos Photos are important – they’re worth a thousand words. We offer suggestions on how to post your best and most effective photos at Tips on Photos. If you are concerned that someone you know may see your picture, remember it will be because that person is online, looking for someone special as well. Make sure your photos do not exceed the file size limit and are JPG, PNG, or GIF.Length of Profile When considering length, remember that short and sweet is better than a novel about your life. Yes, your life is fascinating and complex, but maybe save most of that for later conversations. Leave them wanting more, not overwhelmed. Don’t be so brief, however, that they aren’t able to learn enough about you. Find a balance – interesting and enriching, with just enough information. Describing Your Ideal Partner The choices you make in describing your ideal partner can have a positive or negative impact on members who read your profile. Unless there are “deal-breaker” qualities that are absolutely not acceptable to you, you may want to stay as open-minded and expansive as possible when describing your preferences. You may end up eliminating an amazing person or discouraging a potential partner from even contacting you because you got too specific about hair color or location, for example. Be upfront about you intentions. Are you looking for a soul mate, a friend, or a casual relationship? If you are looking for a simple friendship, then say that and avoid mentioning long-term relationships or marriage in your profile. Use language in your profile that sets the tone of who and what you are looking for. If you want a savvy business type, then describe your desires in a professional, intelligent, and savvy manner. If you want someone who is warm, patient, and caring – it’s best to have a warm and caring attitude in your writings. Submitting Your Profile It may take a few drafts until you’re happy with your profile, so write it and then let it be. Revisit it later to see how it reads. Ask someone close to you to review what you’ve done and give you honest feedback. Find out if they think it reflects the real you – and the best of you. Once you’re happy with what you’ve created, post it and see what results you get – you can always amend it later. Don’t procrastinate or delay submitting your profile because you’re afraid it’s not good enough. You can always go back and make changes later – especially once you see the responses, questions, and comments you are receiving.

Tips on Photos

Post a photo of yourself. Make sure the photo does not exceed the file size limit and is a JPG, PNG, or GIF file. Use recent photos that were taken within the past 6 months. Photos should reflect the best elements of you. Look your best. Be the focus of your shot – be the only person in the photo. Group photos can be distracting. Don’t post photos with a “friend” of either sex. Photos with animals, cars, boats, planes, motorcycles, etc. can also be distracting and are usually not effective. Just show you – your face – your whole face. Make sure your face is well lit. Photos taken in the mirror are not as appealing. Use your computer to adjust color, lighting, clarity. It’s easy to do – or ask someone to help you. With today’s computer technology, it’s easy to make a photo look good. Color photos are more effective than black and white. Avoid overly professional glamour shots – pretentious images can be intimidating. Avoid images where you are far away and cannot been clearly seen. Please post photos of yourself, not someone else. If you’re sincere about finding a partner (using our “Love Colors Dating” service), be authentic. Present your true self – not who you think you have to be to attract someone.

Safety Tips for Love Colors Online Dating

Love Colors Dating is designed for people who are genuinely interested in finding quality friendships, loving companions, and/or long-term life partners. We encourage Love Colors Dating members to commit time to learning more about themselves and others. We encourage giving careful thought to creating a sincere and thorough profile so the most compatible partner can be found. Take your time and do it right. Love Colors Dating is dedicated to providing a safe, nurturing, and educational environment where you can grow as an individual and find love within a great community of people. We encourage you to reach out and communicate with people via waves and emails. Take full advantage of our matching, coaching, and video services to assist you in your journey. And while we want you to have fun and enjoy the process, we also want you to be aware, be safe, and use common sense. You and you alone are in control of when, and if, your personal information is ever shared with anyone on this site. Take your time to get acquainted with people in the Love Colors Dating community. Do not feel rushed or pushed to move forward with anyone, on any level or in any manner, until you feel comfortable, safe, and ready.Love Colors Dating does not conduct background checks on the members or visitors of this website. Here are some important suggestions to protect your safety when meeting people on this site and in person:Protect your identity Do not use your real name, personal phone numbers, or any other personal identifying information until you are comfortable and feel safe doing so. It is always a safe choice to remain anonymous until you believe the time is right to share personal information. Love Colors Dating uses secure technology that allows you to wave and email members without revealing any of your personal information. We strongly recommend that you do not post your personal contact information in your profile. Do not use parts of your name, city of residence, or any other personal information in your user name. If you receive personal information (name, phone number, email address, etc.) from a member, remember that you are not obligated to use it or to offer your personal information in return. Do not share or pass on any member’s personal information. If you choose to receive direct emails outside of Love Colors Dating, we encourage you not to use your regular email address. Set up a new email address that is used only for your online dating contacts. If you use a regular snail mail address, use a PO Box, not your street address. Be aware of the impact your user name will have on your ability to attract a person who is genuinely interested in a relationship. Sexual connotations in your user name or email address on this site may discourage people from contacting you, or encourage the wrong element to contact you. Blocking and Reporting If you feel uncomfortable with anyone who is communicating with you on this site, or if you are receiving any questionable, abusive or threatening messages, immediately stop communicating and “block” the person. You may also report them to us by Contacting Us. Never send money to someone you meet online. If someone asks you for money, for whatever reason, do not do so please, report the situation to us via the “Report” button. If somebody is asking you, they may be asking others, and your report can help protect other members. To see some of the signs of a type of scam, read below. Beware of any person asking for money, donations, airline tickets, or any form of gift. Also, please report anyone suggesting that you link to a pay-to-view site or business phone number, offers to model, invitations to singles sites, or anyone attempting to sell any merchandise or service to you. Please report any such communication received to Love Colors Dating. Keep a record of your email conversations on this site. Love Colors Dating does not store copies of your correspondence after 30 days. Safe Dating Please act responsibly and safely when meeting someone. Whether you plan to meet a person in your home area or out of town, carefully consider these common-sense, cautionary steps: Meet in a public place where other people are present. Do not meet at your home or the home of the person you are meeting. Do not reveal your hotel or home location. If you are traveling to meet someone, stay in a hotel. Do not stay at the person’s home – especially on your first date. If you stay in a hotel, use your mobile phone to contact your date to prevent disclosing your location via caller ID. Use your own transportation, or take a taxi, to get to your pre-arranged meeting site, or to and from the airport, train station, or bus station. If your date wants to meet and greet you at the airport, you can let them know you appreciate their kind gesture, however, let them know ahead of time that you will not be joining them in their personal vehicle – especially on a first date. Do not take valuables with you on a date. Leave them at home or in a hotel safe. Notify friends or family members where and when you are meeting and when you plan to return. Tell your date that you have notified them. Do your homework. Educate yourself about your date as much as possible before you meet. This is appropriate and it is your responsibility. Be Aware of Instincts or Telltale Signs That Things are “Not Right” If the other person can only meet or talk to you at odd hours, or talks in hushed tones, or has to get off the phone quickly, he or she may be keeping a secret (such as marital status). Honesty is always the best policy. If a person cannot be honest with you or is hiding something, they are not worth your time. Love Colors Dating is committed to protecting your privacy and safety. Because we do not require or conduct background checks for our members, we encourage members to do their own research on potential matches, including asking questions, using Internet search engines, using professional background checking services, and most importantly, using common sense. You and your date may wish to consider using such a service before you meet. It is understandable for people to want to guard their privacy with people they don’t know, but if a person is vague or inconsistent in their answers, or offers many more questions than answers, you should be wary. If you are about to meet with someone, you should be able to ask and receive answers to your questions. Be realistic – maintain good common sense. Do not rush into any arrangements. Allow time for the relationship to develop. If it is real, it will last. People can make costly and even dangerous mistakes by excitedly believing they have found love at first sight, or after having just a few conversations online. Take your time to really get to know the person. Do not share your financial information. Beware of any solicitations. Be wary of anyone who discusses financial problems, losses, hardships, get-rich schemes, or other scams. Here are some important suggestions to protect your safety when meeting people on this site and in person: Love Colors Dating does not conduct background checks on the members or visitors of this website. Do NOT send money at any time or for any reason to anyone! This is the number one reason why scammers are on Internet sites. Continue reading to see some of the more common fraudulent schemes used by scammers. Nigerian Romance Scammers They’re called Nigerian Romance Scammers because often they are Nigerian men posing as someone else (man or woman) on Internet dating sites. They use fake pictures and fake profiles to attract daters into a romantic relationship so that they can ask for money and/or goods. According to news reports it is a huge business. Although it is impossible for online dating sites to proactively identify and eliminate scammers, we try our best. However, please be aware of these common characteristics of scammers and if you have any suspicions or any member asked you to send them money or goods (phones, computers, etc.), please report them to us immediately. Common characteristics of scammers: Profile Characteristics: Their profile sounds “too good to be true.” Sometimes you will find typos in their profile, but this is not always the case. However, even if their profile spelling is perfect, their emails and messages will have more typos than you would expect from someone comfortable with the English language. They look much younger and more attractive than you would expect for their age. Scammers often use photos of fashion models so all of their photos appear to be “staged.” They often state their relationship status as “widowed” in order to gain sympathy from their victims. Scammers typically list their location as affluent areas in the U.S. Many use Beverly Hills, Pasadena, and other affluent communities within a large city such as Los Angeles. Message and Conversation Characteristics: As opposed to exchanging emails on the site for some time, they immediately ask to move to an Instant Messenger chat program. If you suspect someone is a scammer and they asked to chat on another site or platform, tell them, “I don’t chat” and see if they suddenly lose interest in you. If they do – they are most likely a scammer that realized they could not engage you to the level they needed to for making a profit. Scammers usually engage in conversation for several days before telling you that they are on a business trip overseas. Sometimes they will say they are working in Europe or are even working as an American civil engineer working on a road or building construction project in Nigeria. They will tell you that they will return in about a week or two and would like to meet you. However, when that time comes, either their trip will have been extended, or they will encounter an accident. Common themes include staying longer than expected, losing their wallet and having no money to return home; or being mugged, being in the hospital and needing money to be released and fly home. They ask you for money to help them get home to meet you ASAP. Some scammers may even ask for money to continue Internet access to be able to talk to you. They will try to get you to send anywhere between $100 and $500 per week to them. If you do engage in an ongoing conversation with a scammer, they move into a romantic relationship VERY quickly. They will often tell you they love you within a few days and may even ask you to marry them within a week or two. They will engage many hours of your day and night talking with you to get you hooked into “needing” them. If you speak with the scammer on the phone, please note their accent compared to what they say their nationality is. They often say they are from another country living in the U.S. But notice whether they have a Nigerian, Asian, or Russian accent. You can hear all of these accents on http://www.youtube.com. Scammers will often ask you to Skype them because they want to see you and your expressions. But, they will use many excuses why they don’t have or can’t use a webcam so that you can see them. Our advice is that if they ask you to video chat with them, refuse to do so unless you see them on video chat first. Asking for Money: When asking for money, scammers will request that money is sent via Western Union to a name but with a question and answer code. According to the Western Union website, this is because using the Q&A code eliminates the need for the recipient to show a picture ID to pick up the cash. Anyone, and yes, we do mean ANYONE who asks you to send them money or products IS a scammer. No question. No doubt. Although these are called Nigerian Romance Scams, the scammers can be from Nigeria, Ghana, Ivory Coast, Thailand, The Philippines, Russia, or even other countries. You will know where the scammer lives because they will ask you to wire the money via Western Union to their location. If you suspect you have encountered a scammer, contact us immediately! If they are trying to defraud you, they will try to defraud others. Please assist us in keeping this site safe.

Dating Tips for Men & Woman

Politeness, courtesy, and common sense are the first steps toward a successful date. Give plenty of lead time when asking for and planning a date. People have busy schedules. Confirm the day before. If offered the choice – let your date know where you would like to go. People want to do the right thing. It takes the pressure off if you are specific about your likes (food, restaurants, etc.). Dress appropriately for the date. If you go to a nice restaurant or event, dressing up shows you put some extra thought into the date. However, don’t wear clothes that are uncomfortable – that could ruin your enjoyment. Wear clothes that reflect the real you but are still appropriate for the event and location. It may be easier to choose a familiar place where you know the environment, staff, menu, etc. – a favorite restaurant where you are comfortable. Being able to offer menu ideas and suggestions to your date can be a plus. Men – be considerate. Opening doors or pulling out your date’s chair may seem old fashioned – but it can make the person feel important and respected. Wherever you go, be considerate and polite to others – the staff, your server, etc. Your tone and treatment of other individuals is a reflection of you, your relationship style, and your communication skills. Wherever you go on the date, enjoy it – don’t get overly critical or picky. Critical behavior can make your date wonder how critical and picky you could be in a relationship. Pay attention to your date. Put the phone or text device away. Avoid meeting at a place where your attention is going to be drawn to a television, a game, or anything or anyone who is going to distract you from your date. Be a good listener. Show interest in the person. Find something complimentary to say. Discuss interesting and positive topics. Learning what your date is interested in is an important step to creating a healthy relationship. It’s nice for both people to be able to share thoughts and ideas – that’s part of being in a relationship. Don’t be afraid to share your beliefs and opinions, but you don’t need to start a debate. If you want a second date, it’s best to be diplomatic and respectful of your date’s beliefs and opinions. It shows you are open to learning and growing. People are attracted to others who are considerate, happy with life, and confident but not boastful. Be honest and authentic. If you are intent on building a relationship, then honesty is always the best policy. You can do this in a kind and respectful way – not by being blunt or confrontational. People do not want to hear about any past lover, partner, or spouse; or any negative stories and problems in your life. People who are complainers, needy, or whiny are not very attractive to most people. If you are enjoying the date, let the person know. Don’t assume he or she knows how you feel. Thank your date for a day or evening out. Be courteous. Don’t get too familiar too quickly. Suggesting trips, meeting relatives, and baby names could frighten or intimidate your date. Taking phone photos can also cause concern too early in a relationship. When communicating online during the dating process, keep it simple, sincere, and short. Email novels sent hourly may say that you have way too much time on your hands. A second date gives you the opportunity to show you were paying attention on the first date. Choose a place to meet that reflects something you learned about your date. If you were nervous or not as open as you wanted to be on the first date, relax and open up on the second date. Ask and learn and share new things about yourself. To Google or not to Google: You can learn a great deal about people on Google but remember, it’s only a search engine. There are many facts that can be learned about a person, but it doesn’t usually reveal whether or not the person is caring and compassionate with a strong, moral character. Some might consider it invasive, but most people will use Google. Your date may use it to find out more about you too. Do your research – but also trust your intuition and feelings.